Individual Counselling

One Person Can Make A Difference

When one partner seeks couples counselling

Sometimes, one partner is far less motivated to be open to getting professional help when needed. Some reasons for this include:-

This can be because the problems are so entrenched that they have become gridlocked in their beliefs and feel that nothing could make a positive difference;

While others have a belief that couples should be able to work things out themselves;

Some people believe that “If we can’t sort this out ourselves, then maybe we are wrong for each other”;

Others comment that they “Don’t want to make the problem public”;

Some people have never had positive experiences in any situation of resolving problems in a positive and respectful way and therefore fear going anywhere near their issues;

“Let’s not give the problems anymore than what they’ve been taking from us.”

You can make a difference

A good marriage will make life more meaningful as well as teach and support each person how to do life better.

When a person is open to the lessons that a relationship has to offer, and they apply a genuine effort to learn the skills and new ways of thinking, then a marriage is simply an awesome experience.

However, when we don’t do this, a marriage can become like a ‘bus ride from hell’, where the same issues are reoccurring until finally there is such a hard knock or last straw, that there is no choice but to take a good hard look at yourself and the marriage, and to simply question…..

When the disconnect between a couple is weighing heavier than the good in the relationship, then it is time to get some outside professional help.

It’s often seen that a marriage is like a classroom for personal development. The issues that are holding you back from really embracing life will show-up in some way within the marriage.

These issues do not appear that much in any other relationship. Issues about ourselves are often difficult to identify, let alone to truly understand or to take positive action to address them.

“People think a soul mate is their perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”

It is at this point that individual counselling can help a person to identify, understand and change behaivours giving their marriage its best chance of success.

Getting ‘fresh eyes’ onto the problems from a qualified and experienced couples counsellor helps people get their relationship to a place where they want it to be.

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